The bond is named by what crosses it. So the refusal to tell is not a shortcoming inside a relation. It is the constitution of a different one, and the party held in it cannot ask her way out, because asking is another disclosure travelling the same direction.
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Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
The distinction is not drawn on affection, duration, duty, obedience or good treatment. It is drawn on one thing: whether the account reaches you. The servant is defined by not being told and the friend by being told, and nothing else in the verse is offered as the difference.
And the direction is specified. The disclosure runs from the party who holds the account to the party who does not.
[See THE DEAD HANDLE · FREEDOM/LIBERTY]
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AND THE REFUSAL IS ONE ACT WITH TWO FACES
Withholding his account and requiring hers look like two separate practices and they are not two.
A relation has one account between the parties and one direction for it to run. She explains where she was, what she meant, why she is upset, what she has spent, who she spoke to. He is not asked, and the not-asking is not a courtesy extended to him by anyone: it is the same fact seen from the other end. There is no relation in which she is fully legible and he is simply also private, because her legibility is what his privacy consists of.
So it cannot be described as an imbalance in how open two people happen to be. The two conditions are one channel, described from its two ends.
[See FLOW · CIRCULATION]
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AND ONE-WAY TRANSPARENCY IS WHAT AN OBJECT IS
Objectifying is used loosely almost everywhere it appears, and here it is exact, so it is worth putting the definition down.
An object is a thing that can be known without knowing back. That is not a claim about whether it has an inside; it is a claim about what the relation requires, and what the relation requires is reading in one direction only. A specimen, a file, a record, a case: each is fully available to be examined and is owed no examination in return.
Which means a person held in one-way transparency is not being treated as though she were an object. She is standing in the position that defines one. And dehumanizing is equally precise once the verse has supplied the criterion, because what is taken from her is not her feelings and not her dignity in the abstract. It is her standing as a party to whom an account is owed.
[See DISQUALIFIED TESTIMONY · THE GIVEN]
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AND SHE CANNOT ASK HER WAY OUT OF IT
The position has a property that is rarely noticed and that explains most of what looks like acquiescence from outside.
To ask is to disclose. The question tells him what she has noticed, which parts she has put together, where she is looking and what she has not yet found, and all of that is information moving from her to him. So the attempt to get the account back is itself another instance of the account running one way, and the channel is not interrupted by the request, it is fed by it.
That is why the position cannot be worked out of from inside it, and why her not having asked is not evidence that she found it acceptable. In a relation built this way, asking costs her and returns nothing, and declining to pay that is not consent to the terms.
[See THE FAWN · THE SILENT WITNESS]
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AND THIS IS WHY IT IS SIN AND NOT DISCOURTESY
The word belongs here in its technical sense and not as an intensifier.
Sin in this body of work is misorientation: possessiveness pushed through the pivot into the position love would occupy, the trespasser moving into territory that was to be yielded to. Being known is how a creature is met as a party rather than handled as a holding. To take the knowing and refuse the being known is to stand in the position of one who is met while declining to meet, which is the trespass performed at the register of disclosure and not a failure of manners anywhere near it.
It also means the question of intent does not arise. A man can withhold the account without any theory about why he is entitled to, and the relation is the same relation.
[See SIN AND DEATH · BENEVOLENCE]
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AND THE INSTRUMENT IS WRITTEN DOWN
The one-way account is not only a habit between people. It is drafted, signed and enforced, and the drafting shows what it is for.
A nondisclosure agreement binds her not to speak about what was done to her. The mutual form exists and is common, and it is worth being exact about why mutuality does not make it symmetrical: what he has to protect is his conduct, and what she has to protect is her account of his conduct. A bar that falls on both parties is not an even bargain when only one of them is holding something the other did, and the consideration is usually the money she needs because of the thing she is agreeing not to say.
The settlement then performs the operation in its own terms. The facts go to him, the silence goes to her, and the document records that both were agreed.
[See HETEROPATHY · THE STOOL OF PESTILENCE]
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AND THE COUNTERFEIT REMEDY IS TOTAL MUTUAL DISCLOSURE
The repair that suggests itself is that everybody should tell everybody everything, and it has to be refused before it is offered, because it looks like the obvious reading of the verse and is not what the verse says.
The friends are not instructed to report to the lord. The sentence is all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you, and the obligation sits entirely on the party holding the account. So the remedy is not that she discloses more, and not that both disclose everything. It is that what is held comes back to the one it concerns.
Mandatory openness between unequal parties is the same flow with a second channel cut beside it, and the party with less to withhold pays more for it. Full transparency in both directions is what the first law offers when it is asked for fairness.
[See THE SELF-RATIFYING STRUCTURE · GENUINE BENEFIT]
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AND THE TEST ASKS NOTHING ABOUT ANYONE'S FEELINGS
What makes this usable is that it can be run without access to a motive, which is the only reason it can be run at all.
Ask who in the relation holds the account. Ask whether any of it comes back. Ask who would have to tell whom for the answer to be yes, and whether that person has ever once done it unprompted. The warmth of the people involved does not enter the calculation, because warmth is distributed evenly across both laws and direction is not.
And the answer to the question of how to live is on the disclosing side of it. The refusal to make known is not one of the available ways to live rightly with another creature. Making known is the thing the second law is named for in the one verse where it names itself.
[See HOW THEN SHALL WE LIVE · NOT RATTING OUT · LOYALTY]
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Being told is the return.
Everything else about a relation can be present and in good order, and if nothing comes back along the channel then the standing it confers is the servant's, whatever the parties call each other. The verse does not make that a hard case. It was written to settle it, and it settles it in the direction of the one who has not been told.
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